Emergents Weblog

Today, much of the church celebrates the Feast of St. Valentine, patron of lovers, young people, and happy marriages.

St. Valentine was a priest from Rome who lived during the 3rd century. During the reign of Emperor Claudius II, he was caught assisting Christians who were being persecuted. He was commanded to renounce his faith but he remained steadfast and strong in his faith.  Valentinus was arrested and imprisoned.

The Emperor took a liking to Valentinus but when the priest tried to convert the Emperor to Christianity, it was ordered that he should be beaten with clubs. His Christian courage and faith made him receive the torture with humility and patience. The Prefect of Rome, finding all tortures ineffectual, ordered the beheading of St. Valentine on February 14, 269. Over a century later, in 494 AD, February 14 was declared his feast day by Pope Gelasius.

It appears that not everyone has learned how to communicate a love and respect for others. It’s hard. We get stuck thinking about ourselves, or the way we want to be loved.

Knowledge of our DISC behavioral style and that of others would help matters. Here’s a few suggestions that are especially helpful for children, spouses, employees and even your church members.

When you want to affirm the high “D”, verbalize how proud you are of their actions and compliment them on their achievements.

A high “I” doesn’t mind what you say so long as you say something nice about them. They respond very well to eye & physical contact, emotion and effusive language.

If you really want to tell a high “S” how much you love and appreciate them, focus on their soul, their being more than their accomplishments.

What about a high “C”? Remind them how much you appreciate their ability to keep everything organized. Tell them, with specifics, how good their work is.

Want to learn more about your gifts and DISC style? Visit the Products & Services page of WIAtoday and send a comment. WIA will be glad to work with you or your entire congregation.